How to Decide What to Do With Your Life
When someone is giving you life advice, take into account the other person's own opinions, goals, motives and background.
They may want what's best for you; they may have the best intentions - but they are not you.
Remember - they don't have to live with the consequences of your actions.
You do.
So while you can consider what they have suggested for you and while you can appreciate their genuine concern for your wellbeing and willingness to help you in your life, you have to remember that in the end YOU are the one that has to live with your decisions. YOU are the one who has to live with your actions. And no one else can tell you what's best for you because they don't know you.
They may know bits about you. They may know a lot, depending on what you have told them. You could ramble to them for hours and hours, but they only know a small percentage of who you actually are. They can get a glimpse, but they don't know inside your own mind.
Taking your power back is making decisions based on what you KNOW is RIGHT for you.
Remember that:
"Only God can judge"
By that I mean, people are only people. Even if someone has a higher education than you or has a specialized degree or is an expert in their field, they do not know what will work for you.
They have their own life history. They have their own background. They have their own family dynamics and belief systems and value system and their own opinions.
And what makes them any better than you or I?
What makes them the ultimate "Higher Power" to decide what is right or wrong in this world?
Society decides a lot of our norms.
But what if you lived in a different society?
For example, there are many cultures who live in a family-based unit. Grandparents live with Grandchildren. There are places where communal living is the norm. There are places where it is the norm to have five wives.
My point being, what is the "norm" is driven by society, and societal expectations change. Nothing is right or wrong if you don't believe it so. And while we can believe in the kindness of others, know that they care about us and just want us to be happy and fulfilled, we need to believe EVEN MORE that we are wonderful enough to know who we truly are and to make the best decisions for OURSELVES.
So I hope that you will look inside and discover what is right for you, to find what you love, to trust and believe in yourself, and pursue that.
Stay positive, my babes!
Amanda
They may want what's best for you; they may have the best intentions - but they are not you.
Remember - they don't have to live with the consequences of your actions.
You do.
So while you can consider what they have suggested for you and while you can appreciate their genuine concern for your wellbeing and willingness to help you in your life, you have to remember that in the end YOU are the one that has to live with your decisions. YOU are the one who has to live with your actions. And no one else can tell you what's best for you because they don't know you.
They may know bits about you. They may know a lot, depending on what you have told them. You could ramble to them for hours and hours, but they only know a small percentage of who you actually are. They can get a glimpse, but they don't know inside your own mind.
Taking your power back is making decisions based on what you KNOW is RIGHT for you.
Remember that:
"Only God can judge"
By that I mean, people are only people. Even if someone has a higher education than you or has a specialized degree or is an expert in their field, they do not know what will work for you.
They have their own life history. They have their own background. They have their own family dynamics and belief systems and value system and their own opinions.
And what makes them any better than you or I?
What makes them the ultimate "Higher Power" to decide what is right or wrong in this world?
Society decides a lot of our norms.
But what if you lived in a different society?
For example, there are many cultures who live in a family-based unit. Grandparents live with Grandchildren. There are places where communal living is the norm. There are places where it is the norm to have five wives.
My point being, what is the "norm" is driven by society, and societal expectations change. Nothing is right or wrong if you don't believe it so. And while we can believe in the kindness of others, know that they care about us and just want us to be happy and fulfilled, we need to believe EVEN MORE that we are wonderful enough to know who we truly are and to make the best decisions for OURSELVES.
So I hope that you will look inside and discover what is right for you, to find what you love, to trust and believe in yourself, and pursue that.
Stay positive, my babes!
Amanda
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